Ups and downs of dating a married man

If you're dating a married man, and think he's going to leave his wife for you, then you need to read this. Here is the harsh I and my AP had few ups and downs.
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The better decision is to go separate ways right now and search for a more suitable partner. It may be a painful thing to do at the moment but in the long run, it will only be beneficial for you. Despite the fact there are so many cons of dating a married man, still there are occasions when married people got divorced and wedded happily their lovers. Early Marriage or Late Marriage: What Is the Best?

Sometimes people get divorced not because of another man or woman, but because they were unhappy together. If you truly love him and feel like his loves you back, then he is worth fighting for. Just keep in mind all the advice that we gave and remember that if something goes wrong you will destroy lives of three people. Want to find a perfect man for you? Your email address will not be published.

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Then after a month, something urged me to research about him. I found his linkedin account then his fb. I never like adding the guy Im dating on social sites to avoid me seeing his past life. But what I found out after a week of stalking is heartbreaking. I was led to a fb page of a woman who is married to him. They've been together for 11 years and married since They don;t have kids. I ended the relationship right away when I found out and he told me this "I'm sorry for not being honest with you: I have never done anything like this.

But I like you and that's why I never had the nerve to tell you the truth. Because I believe that it's better to hurt the person with the truth than make him happy with a lie. I stopped all connection with him after that. But my heart hurts so much whenever i remember that he's the one that I've give my whole self to. Its not a comment as such, but i need an advice. How do i ask for it and wont it cause any problems? He says he loves me and by his actions i see that and believe it too. I ended the relationship I was with a married man after three years.

We went to Mexico and he paid for the trip and I paid for airfare so a sugar daddy he was not. No contact for almost a month but I keep thinking about him. He told me was married and never said he would leave his wife and I never asked him to just thought someone else would come along a lot sooner. It hurts not having him in my life and it hurt when he was in my life because I was never his priority ever. From hard pain and experience, dating a married man is extremely hard. I am always wondering his true feelings for his wife even though they are separated.

I have gut feelings that he secretly private messages her on YouTube and messenger I have not once felt secure with him. The worrying never stops. I feel like an idiot for being loyal to him.

Pros and Cons of an Affair With a Married Man

I've read the article and some comments. I have been with my guy over 7yr. We have had ups and downs. He has been honest from the beginning. And we have love and trust but I'm not unrealistic I know he most likely won't leave. I've met other guys and dates. Add to the mix another married man. They know about each other. I love them both for different reasons.

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As long as you can live with it and know what's real. I really live this man but just the mixed feelings killing me He shows so much interested in me I have been with this married man for a year now.. I am just emotionally drain right now I want him for my self but its just taking to long.. I love him do want to leave because of his situation but its hard to do.. I'm just having the bunch of mixed feelings right now My case was different cos I met him single.

We've been in relationship for almost 3 years then he decided to go for arranged marriage. I was so broke and so down that he just decided so fast without thinking of our relationship. I can't blame his culture and his family's plan for him. So, I still keep in touch with him even after his marriage and he is giving response as well that he still loves me and don't want to leave me. I know it's unfair for me now, knowing that He has wife now and I am waiting for him to come back to me.

In your position, I think I might have asked the spell caster to make my cheating husband's manhood go gangrenous and drop off. Hi Ladies, i have been looking foe woman who have been the same road as i am taking now. I have been knowing this guy since last June and dating him now for 9 months. We have alot in common but what i think i love most about him is that he's been honest from jump. We live 3 hours away so we don't really see each other much.

Yet we talk everyday. He has 2 kids with his wife and they have been married 17 years. I have never dated a married man before and i told him i had no intentions on being with one!! Totally against everything i stand for but what do you do when he's everything you need. He calls my kids and ask them how there day went at school, keeps them in line, sings to them, and they love him but never met him.

I on the other hand love him but i do see other guys to keep me from falling head over heels. He dont tell me sweet nothings but i can always tell through his actions that he do love me as well. I have nothing but respect for him and he has respect for me. He says its ok if i see other guys but i know for fact that was a whole lie. I think man i need to really let this go cause he never will. He's saying and doing more each day to prove to me that he cares for me and i don't even think he realizes it. I love him but i know im going to have to let it go.

He thinks we will still remain friends but i don't know if i could. Or she sees a relationship with a married man as a way of validating her own attractiveness see I can attract a married man, who is risking so much to be with me. And no the guy does not respect his wife and family, or he would not be diverting funds and time away from their family. My ex husband left after over 9 years, but it did not work out with the mistress or wife number 2, so I guess you could say he had a big dose of karma and to be quite honest the mistress did me a big favour, as I think I am much better off without this cheating scumbag.

I am trying hard not to judge but please help me understand why do you do it? There are plenty of hot,decent single men out there waiting for a good woman to love them,what's the allure of dating a married man? Its not like they would ever love you,leave their wives for you,treat you as an equal or marry you,so what's the allure?

Believe me ladies,I know how hard finding a great guy is,but they are out there. I will not judge any woman who chooses to do that because that's life things happen, but you need to be strong if you want to play. And hell ya the single life! I love coming home whatever the time i want! No difference even if he threatens with suicide. If he really does commit suicide, then it's better he stay dead instead of continue to insult my IQ.

So it all depends how ruthless you can be and how much you want to love yourself. Here is a quote from Coco Chanel: As long as you know men are like children, you know everything! And lastly, Why the heck did I receive an email from HubPages editor about "How to be single and mingle"? What the hell does my status have to do with your editor or whatever whoever writes? Either some staff saw my comment and sent me that promotion, or a data analysis machine sorted me to that promotion.

Either way my privacy feels invaded and I will thus unsubscribe from all the feeds from this website. But I will find a way to reply my dear Diana since she cares to be curious about my story. So now, let's see if the author has the ball to let public of this comment evil laughing here hahaha. I'm really glad I came across this article.

The Downsides of Having an Affair

I'm currently in a relationship with a married man for around half a year. He made it clear from the beginning that he's married and has one son but not having sex anymore with his wife for years. He said that he loves her "as a family", not in a romantic way, and they have chosen to not get divorce because of the son. He also said I'm not the first "girlfriend" he had; there were two other women before me. I felt happy in the beginning because I know that he loves me even until now.

But then my happiness turns to guilt when he begins to spend more of his time with me; even keeps texting me all day and calling me when he's home. Also, he never hesitates to show his feeling in public area, such as holding my hand or kiss and hug me. However, when I talked to him about the future, he said firmly that he cannot leave his family. I wouldn't lie that this relationship puts me in a dilemma. I feel left behind and lonely every time he comes home to his family, but at the same time I feel guilty if he spend more time or money with me than his family.

All this feeling makes me unhappy, I can't feel the joy of the relationship. I openly talked about all my feelings to him and said that I want to break up. Come to think of it, I had asked for break up twice, but he always cried and begged me to stay in his life because he said he loved me so much and that I was the gift that he's got in his ruined life. I don't see why he doesn't want to let me go. What's the point of having this kind of relationship? Last month I got pregnant, and he immediately asked me to abort the pregnancy. I was really really depressed, it made me so stressed and had miscarriage.

It was my first pregnancy in my life, not a very nice experience. He was there, took care of me 24 hours for weeks until my health condition was better and no further doctor check up needed. I have a feeling that maybe, maybe he really loves me, but he's too comfortable with his married life to sacrifice anything for our relationship. Now I am here sitting alone, typing on this comment while he's at home with his family.

I am now thinking of seeing other guys behind his back, but I don't know if it is fair for him, because he's always truthful to me as far as I know.

beauty-capital.com/wp-content/2021-03-04/2525.php But the part of this article: Man will not tell the thruth because they know but that not all women are wlling to date a married man. Thats right but its the choice for the other woman to make. I dated a married man for 3 years. He lied about being married with children and about his age. Im a woman and i know the diffrent between a body of a man and a boy.. And i was like or you shure you have told me the thruth about your age? The next day i went back i saw my picture was delete. I told him i want her picture to delete also. I ask Again and he said he dont know how to remove pics from fb.

That i should do it. From that point i start getting susspicious. So i started with his emails.. Because the woman i saw on his fb was not even his wife. I saw messages between him and that woman. I was in shock. I felt like my heart has dissapeared. At that point he was not only fooling me. From my country and his country. The wife is leaving in his country.

Because he had enough time for me. I cofronted him the same day he was shocked also. I told him when I ask question you better answere them because if i want to know something i will.. I can go far so he appoligized, kneel down telling me his wife is leaving in his country and he lied about his age because of his paper to stay in this country. But i didnt ask because i knew the whole story already. Then he start crying he wanted to tell me But everytime there was something else and because i was sick he was affraid of the affect on my condition.

I mean 3 whole years. I was not sick when you first met me. But after that i stopped trusting him. When i was calling And he didnt answere, when he was on his phone. When he was touching me i couldnt stand it. I started nagging for the little things. And so i decided to stop the relationship. So this was my story. My advice to yall ladies out there, be carefull and think before dating a man. For now i will enjoy my single life. As someone commented before, this is just going to be a fling.

I have no interest in interfering in his family at all, well if you want to criticize what I want to do I have to say I am a human and thus should be allowed to follow my heart sometime. I have no desire for him to divorce his wife at all. He actually once hinted to me about a future. Indeed, my ambition is too big to be trapped by a man or two, even if he or them might be the love of my life, in different ways. So I am going to be stubborn and thus impolite to you: I am going to use my own money to fly to see him.

GZZ, girl, don't do it. Thank you for the sweet compliment. Also, your comment made my day. I really like the way you write, GlendaGoodWitch. You are blunt and your writing is logical and organized, but also humorous and entertaining. I have been struggling in an affair myself trying to remain faithful to "him" but the darkness and loneliness began to consume me.

I have been hanging out with one of my exes now and it is MAJOR relief and we are surprisingly reconnecting wonderfully and realizing we are more compatible than we once believed. I realize - and especially upon discovering your article - I am a truly free individual and it is hypocritical and presumptuous of a married man to demand fidelity from his mistress.

Think and act like a man for happiness, as well as the putting the shoe on the other foot analogy helped me immensely I am now beginning to reach clarity, I think, I just feel so scared to end it. Lynn67, I know I'm probably too young to offer much validation and probably also too active into other people's business, but there are some lines from the movie Last Night:. I've been seeing a married man for 3 years now. He sees me at two breaks at work, 30 mins once a week in the morning and that's it.

Never buys me lunch or dinner, never takes me out, no gifts , yet I do counless gifts and things for him. He will never leave his wife of 20 years although she never has sex w him. He has become hateful since he has a lot of pain and medical issues. He says he loves me. Can't let me go but sometimes I wish she would find out so it would be over. Met a man at work who is twice my age, but we have an incredible connection that we just can't seem to ignore. He's been married for 30 years and has always been truthful about it. I want out before anything serious happens we have only kissed once , and this article really helped.

Haha i find it so bulls eye. Then you will probably need to wait maybe 2 years or more I think. I will come back here to post if I have updates. You're a romantic like me. You don't want to have regrets. I really hope things work out for you and you don't get more hurt. Let me know how things go. God this is such a paranoia. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find that one that truly cares for me.

This feels like the one thing that I just have to do. There will be no future, but I have to do this to save myself. My recommendation is to not do it. I know you think now that you can stay emotionally detached and you are not interested in anything more than a fling. Trust me, you will be hurt. You will get even more attached and waste your youth pining for this person who is using you. I know you think he loves you, and maybe there's part of him that cares about you and I know you think you're different or this is different, and I'm sure you're a beautiful, young, intelligent woman, but please you will be hurt.

Think of it this way, if he really loved you, he would visit YOU. Don't make excuses for him. Look at all these long posts! We all have some kind of being with a married man stories, don't we? I met a man in Europe while I was studying abroad. I don't want to specify the country for privacy reason I was working on publishing a paper and needed someone more experienced.

He agreed to help and then we got closer. I only stayed in that country for 2 days so we mainly kept in contact via Internet afterwards. We stayed in contact for about a year and then the communication gradually stopped. I had a American boyfriend a little older than me but eventually broke up. I am very young, still a college student in the U. He is much much older than me, definitely older than double of my age. And I know from the beginning that he is married.

We had skyped and I can see the ring. But he is just so mature, charming, and intellectual stimulating. I think it is the very first time that I realize I love someone. I think he loves me too, from many details. Although we are not in contact, I feel I just know it from a woman's sixth sense. I've been thinking working hard after graduation to save money to fly to Europe to see him.

I've read the following posts which all seem to come to the conclusion that being a mistress will only hurt you. But I'm not interested in his wife. Indeed, I am not interested in anyone's ex I also have no interest in wrecking his family. I think he has kids with his wife I want to go all the way to see him just for the sake of love. If it hurts afterwards, then let it hit. I am not afraid. I am thinking about doing a master's degree in his city. I don't know how this will change the outlook. I dated a married man casually for 3 years. In that time I met his really yummy younger brother.

We spent a lot of time together and both knew we had chemistry. But he had a serious girlfriend at the time. He always told me he thought I was too good to be involved in an affair. I listened to him and broke it off with his brother shortly after he left town.

The thing is he also asked me to marry him that night. How do I say yes? What do we say to his brother? I suggested we can all meet for drinks before the gig, either in the city or at my place. I got kind of pissed with that realization and decided to go forward and just resign before he asks me. I can't even explain why or what was I thinking at that time. I even got a chance of rolling my eyes over picture of him on the beach, which was clearly taken by his wife. I never asked him about moving out or a divorce, I only asked him to finally talk with me.

Actually I've asked about that 35 times only this year. He always agreed, but obviously never did it. Now I fell he moved out because it was easier to have sex with me that way plus he didn't have to come home late and make up excuses what a clever boy. But first I discovered he's spending weekends with his wife and nope, not because of the kid, but some event. At this point I got mad, because he asked me a ton of question and I never kept a secret from him about meeting somebody or going somewhere. So I was mad and pregnant. I decided to terminate the pregnancy, and informed him about it.

His father started to loose his health over that brother situation - I was supportive. I never said a bad word about him changing plans last minute to go who knows where to save his unstable brother yet again. I gave him some advice how to deal with that guy, but he ignored it now I think it's because my advice would actually do the job and therefore deprive him of his favourite excuse.

I don't want to sound mean here, I know everybody has his own problems. He met my parents as a friend, I cannot tell them the truth and some of my friends, I met none of his. I just stopped talking to him. I just got fed up with hearing all the same empty words and seeing no actual action or caring. Moreover, there is not a thing to go back to, don't you think? Maybe the circle has closed, soon he's going on holidays wit his son, I wouldn't be surprised if the wife joined, too.

He's lease is ending this month, so the doors of coming back home are wide open. Only this time I really don't care anymore. Maybe not being in love saved me from feeling pain, but all this months made me feel just empty. Even though I can recall the good moments, I only feel this was a complete waste of time.

So for all the girls thinking about being a mistress: You can be super chill, supportive and have your own life going on, but you'll still be drained, sad and used. Let the guy show you he's serious, before you even consider sleeping with him.

I know some says. The best cure for a break up is to build self esteem. Be sucessful and bla bla bla. But J's wife is a professional working woman. Come from a good background family. And she still got cheated. But i seriously losing faith and dont trust man anymore. So Im busy building my career for me n my baby.

Later im gonna fly away from this relationship. Because i know this relay is not going anywhere. I dont even want j to leave her wife because. I cant trust him. Been dating a married man J with no kid for almost 1 year.. I have 1kid with previous husb. Been dating J since i was married, but we had problematic marriage as hes a gay. After i divorce he started paying for my house and bill. He never lie to me abt his wife. He admit they have sex but seldomly.

They trying to have kid. At the same time, some guy w is trying to get my attention. J knows about W. I am happy with J. I have my own work, kid and nice good sex. I dont even have to take care of him all the time. Im younger than him so many years. Sometimes J said wanna have kid. But i have trauma to have a kid as my previous husband didnt care abt me and baby..

Sometimes i snaped and pushing J's away. Because im feeling guilty and at the same time i dont want to leave him because im comfortable right now. I love the sex I've been dating a married man for 2 months. He also told me that he and his wife are not truly in love even they're living together for over 13 years. I didn't believe him at first but day by day, he always cares and make me feel special that no one can do and i realized that i fell for him truly.

I'm trying not to bc I don't want to become a third person. But he's too amazing, he's wonderful I love him more and more even i'm trying not to. Please let me know how to cut him out of my life. I don't want to become a home-wrecker. I've been seeing a man now who has been married for 20 years. His wife knows but doesn't want to leave. He has 2 kids and we still have to sneak around. Everyone knows, it's the elephant in the room. I needed such an article which is motivating and non judgmental. Been dating a man for 6months now and he swears that he is not sleeping with his wife at all,that they are only raising their 9Year old daughter till she is of age to handle the situation but i just dont belive that he loves me.

My instincs just sense that he is playing me for a fool which is almost true. I just needed a smater way to handle him because in all honesty,i love him so much and though i am ashamed of myself,I am not quitting yet. Just remember if he cheats on his wife, what makes you think he will be loyal to you? Some men like to play the cheating game with a girl or two Thank you so much for this post. I had suspicion of the man I fell in love with seeing other women as well when I got in his truck and his passenger seat was laying down one time.

This article helps me see clearer and more rational to the emotional abuse marriedmen can really put on women. Thank you for this article! I know what I need to do for myself now. He is definately playing with your feelings. Why would he go for his anniversary for weekend getaway if he wanted to be in touch with you? Tell him that if he really wants to be with you to give you his divorce certificate otherwise to leave you alone.

It's hard to deal with this but will save you pain in the long run. Been with a married man for a year I feel like a butt of a joke. I end it but he calls me or texts me telling me how much he needs me. And its something i love seeing. But i think i know he does it on purpose Theyve been together for ever. They just had a weekend get away for their anniversary and he messaged me every day they were away. And he met me the next day after they had come back. I felt a connection from him since day one. How can i walk away and keep it that way.

He seriously is crushing my heart. Better you move on with your life. I have been in the same situation and been hanging there for years. He told me same Still hasn't and kids are 18 up. Wants another 5 years. In the beginning of dating we didn't have sex too and he kept giving me hopes for the future and was saying he isn't intimate with the wife and they sleep separately Shouts at me every now and then.

And am so stuck to get out this rut. My advise leave it Don't fall in love with him. That is why you can be sure that he will not let anyone know about the two of you. This will be beneficial for you if you also have a family of your own or if you are in a position where your life can turn upside down if your reputation gets hurt. An extramarital affair is way cheaper than a real relationship. It will boost your confidence because you know that he is cheating on someone for you which makes you feel more desirable. No strings attached and no responsibilities.

Family always comes first. Even if he talks about how much he has been detached from his wife, he will always choose to be a husband and try to keep his family together especially if he has children. He will always prioritize the needs of his wife and kids before your needs.

His marriage is based on friendships and social network and he would not want to lose that only because of you. There may be benefits of dating a married man, but the reality will always speak for itself. As much as you want to tell the whole world how much you love him and how good he is as a boyfriend, it will never happen no matter how long you have been dating. At first, the two of you might be having good times together and planning your future. But keep in mind that everything is just a game.